For women entrepreneurs whose business and life look good on paper … and still can't fully relax
On paper, your life works.
Business is good.
Life is good.
But it doesn't always feel that way.
Because there’s one thing that keeps slipping through your fingers, no matter what you throw at it:
A goal or dream you can’t seem to achieve.
Like that book you’ve wanted to write for 7 years now, but you’ve yet to put a word on paper.
Like breaking through that magic 7-figure mark.
Or like finally finding more time for yourself, instead of somehow always ending up with an overflowing schedule.
Or a recurring issue that you can’t seem to permanently fix.
Like doubting yourself into the ground every time you do something new.
Like always over-giving and over-delivering, even when you don’t want to.
Or like eternal money stress, even when you have more than enough. (But will it still be enough when you’re 83?!)
You've done everything you could think of already:
Coaches. Masterminds. Business building programs. Mindset work. Energy healings.
You’ve implemented fancy strategies and changed your business model 33 times.
You’ve analyzed every childhood memory to death and learned to love yourself more.
You can easily speak in front of 2000 people and got your robot vacuum cleaner working even though the instructions were in every language except one you understood.
But this one thing, whatever yours is exactly?
You. Just. Can’t. Get. A. Handle. On. It.
Temporarily, sure.
But permanently?
Nope.
It frustrates you to no end.
WHY didn’t you break through that income ceiling yet?
WHY aren’t you able to stop biting your nails until your fingers bleed?
Why?
You think about it while blowdrying your hair (or that of your chihuahua).
You’re constantly, unconsciously, scanning for new strategies that might fix what still feels off.
It’s become the annoying soundtrack of your life.
Which is now almost more annoying than the issue itself.
What are you still not seeing?
What are you still doing wrong?
(What’s wrong with you?)
I know all about it.
For me, that one thing that drove me up the wall at times was money. It would go well for a while and bam … worries and stress came roaring back.
I tried absolutely everything to fix it:
Changing my business model, working with affirmations, making stellar business plans (I never stuck to), journaling my ass off and learning 237 ways to shift subconscious beliefs. (More or less.) (Probably less.)
Everything worked for a while.
But nothing solved the money-issue permanently.
Even when money was there, I couldn't deeply relax.
There was always a voice whispering I could be doing more, I should be further along. No matter how much I achieved, it never felt good enough. (I never felt good enough.)
Until, finally, everything changed.
I found the sense of security and trust that I’d always be okay, no matter what.
I found peace in the midst of unachieved goals.
And the nagging sense that something was still missing, still not right, dissolved.
How?
It didn’t come from finding a secret tool or manifesting trick.
It came from dropping the whole shebang:
The seeking, fixing, hoping, crashing, and repeating that same cycle again. And again.
I stepped out of it.
I stopped trying to control my thoughts, my results, and life.
Instead, I looked directly at the urge to control. At the thoughts, the stories, the beliefs … without trying to change or delete them.
I realized that thoughts and feelings simply arose—I wasn’t creating them. They just came. And left.
I noticed that the thoughts I spent so long to change no longer had a hold on me.
And I saw that underneath that inner noise was already that deep, unshakable peace, freedom and ease I’d been looking for.
And nothing fell apart.
Nothing went to shit when I stopped trying to control my life (and myself.)
I didn’t end up broke when I stopped trying to fix the money stress.
I felt so much lighter.
Like I put down a backpack filled with guilt, worries, and heavy books I didn’t even want to read.
Money stuff still appears every now and then.
But it’s no longer a problem.
And it always solves itself without any force or stress.
This is the shift my clients experience, too.
No matter what your 'one thing' is exactly.
Your issue may be different from mine or any of the examples I mention on this page.
It doesn’t matter.
The mechanics are always the same.
Because it’s not the issue that keeps you stuck.
It’s the constant attempt to solve it by fixing yourself.
“My business didn't thrive, and the work I was doing didn't make me happy. I'd been trying to break through that, even with the help of other coaches, for about 8 years.
But nothing worked.
Until I started to work with Brigitte.”
Petra Jungblut
This is not coaching as you know it.
It's not about improving your mindset.
We don't change thoughts or replace beliefs.
We don't set goals.
And you don't have to become a better version of yourself.
Because those are the exact things that keep your issues alive, and create new ones.
Instead, something much simpler happens.
You shift where attention goes:
From getting swept along by the countless thoughts that race through your mind all day long.
Towards the space these thoughts arise from.
From there:
Mental noise quiets down.
Decisions become simple.
You work without needing to kick your ass or give yourself pep-talks.
Pressure and tension dissolve.
That nagging voice no longer runs you.
And you can finally relax.
Even when you’re still busy.
Even when old or new issues poke their head above the horizon.
What changes when we work together
The most important shift you’ll experience is that this one thing that kept eluding you falls away.
Somehow it resolves.
Somehow you write that book, bust through that income ceiling, or drop those last 15 pounds you haven’t been able to shed for 13 years.
You’ve reached that goal without stress or overthinking it twelve ways from Tuesday.
Or … it no longer bothers you. At all.
You don’t understand how, but it just became a neutral thing.
Sure, it would still be great to make 7-figures / stop nail biting / find the love of your life or the best business model …
But if you don’t?
No biggie.
You see that the biggest problem was never the problem itself.
It was the exhaustion of trying to manage, control or fix it.
It was the bone-tiredness of being at war with yourself.
And also ...
You worry so much less in general.
No one liked your carefully crafted Reel yet? Whatever.
A client said ‘no’ or your launch flopped? Ah well.
It may still sting or hurt.
But it no longer makes you doubt every decision you made since fourth grade for a year.
You’re not constantly trying to manage life / your thoughts / the way your belly flops over the edge of your pants.
You feel looser and more at peace in general.
The tension in your shoulders drops.
Your constant frown softens.
You find yourself breathing deeper and slower without having to remind yourself of that.
Problems no longer feel overwhelming or urgent.
You shrug, knowing that solutions always come. Usually out of the blue, when you’re daydreaming during lunch.
Business and life get easier.
And no, you won’t turn into a lazy, couch-sitting, chips munching zombie who does nothing but watch Friends reruns all day.
You’ll still do what needs doing, just without the accompanying pep-talks, ass-kicking or fourth-guessing.
You stop fighting with yourself.
And you feel more ‘you’ and do things more your way than ever.
"I feel a deep, unshakable peace now, no matter what happens.
I no longer worry about anything. Life is effortless. Business is easy.
And even when something shitty happens, I still feel calm and at peace because I deeply know and trust that everything is okay.”
~ B.
How we work together
We work together for either 3 months or 6 months. We decide before we start.
Each month we meet twice, on Zoom.
In between calls you get ongoing support via the free Voxer app.
You don’t have to wait for your next call to share or ask what’s on your mind. You’re supported throughout the whole time we work together.
I only work with a handful of private clients.
Why 3 months or more?
Because getting an insight or a big fat breakthrough can happen in a split second.
But then your kid comes home with lice, your cat vomits all over your brand new laptop and the bank accidentally cancels your credit card. And suddenly, you’re stressing like no tomorrow again.
I want to be there for you in the moments it actually matters, including those vomit-lice moments, so you can get real and lasting changes.
This is for you if:
✔️ You're successful on paper but there’s still that one thing that nags you.
✔️ You want to get that one thing fixed and gone and done with …
✔️ ... and you’ve run out of ideas on how to do that.
This is NOT for you if:
❌ You’re in crisis and need immediate practical support.
❌ You want a step-by-step system.
❌ You’re looking for a bargain and want a quick fix.
“It felt scary to invest so much in myself at first, but it was immediately worth it.”
Simone Brockhuis
The next step
If you’re ready to finally kick that one thing to the curb, apply for a private conversation.
No pitch or "but wait, there's more."
Just a conversation to see if this is the right fit for you.
You don’t need to prepare anything. I've heard "I don't even know where to start" more often than I've bought new socks.
And I bought a lot of socks.
A short form will pop up where you fill in your name, email, and anything you'd like to share before we meet. That's all.
I'll get back to you within 2 business days to schedule our chat.
What clients say:
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“I feel a deep, unshakable peace now, no matter what happens.
I no longer worry about anything.
Life is effortless.
Business is easy.
And even when something shitty happens,
I still feel calm and at peace because I deeply know and trust that everything is okay."
~ B.
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"The coaching has been life changing for me.
Everything is different, and I’m deeply grateful.
I can’t describe how gifted Brigitte is.
Her intuition is laser-sharp, and she knows exactly what you need to create deep and lasting transformation.
Working with Brigitte is magical and sublime!"
Marieke Kamerbeek
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"Life is so much brighter now.
I didn't know this level of ease was even possible!"
~ M.
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“Working with Brigitte is uplifting.
I felt like she had my back the entire time we worked together, I could ask her anything and she was always there for me.”
Simone Brockhuis
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“Wow.
Just ... wow.
No words can describe how much lighter and brighter life feels now.
This is what I've been looking for my whole life.
Forever grateful.”
~ S.
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“I am living a completely different life now. And it keeps growing and evolving.
Brigitte has helped me step into a new reality of magnificent and endless possibility, love and beauty.”
Lyerka Miller
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“The 1-1 coaching is deeply transformational and life changing,
and worth every cent of my investment—and more!
It’s truly priceless.”
Petra Jungblut
About
I'm Brigitte van Tuijl. Writer, master coach, and author of 9 books. My first book was published by a Dutch publisher in 2009 and still sells today without a single promotion. The rest I self-published.
I've been coaching women entrepreneurs for 25+ years, created 50+ online programs, and was one of the first coaches in the Netherlands to work online—back when most coaches still insisted you could only do this work sitting in the same room together.
I only work with a handful of private clients. Because I want to give you my full attention and be available to you whenever you need me ... and still have plenty of time for myself.
A tiny form will pop up where you fill in your name, email, and anything you'd like to share before we meet. That's all.
I'll get back to you within 2 business days to schedule our chat.